My children are circumsized...
Yes, I have to admit. That both my boys are circumsized.
I am now writing about this topic because I am seeing that there is a big contraversy to ban "genital mutilation" or also known as circumcisiton. To me, Circumcision is a choice, not mandatory. It is the parents choice of the baby to decide if the boy will be circumsized or not. People say that it tramatizes the child, however, both my children are perfectly fine, and heck, dont even remember it because they were just days old!
I know there will be some comments on this post about how I should not have done it, or how it's wrong. Well, guess what? it's NOT wrong. It's perfectly normal!
So, don't critisize me for having it done on my children, I dont critisize you for NOT doing it to yours.
I believe that it should be a parental choice to whether it's done or not, and what the parents choose to do should NOT be critisized by others who chose to do the opposite.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
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Surprisingly many people have not realized there was a debate about this until recently. It's been an issue in the UN for years. Last year or the year before they even helped a man sue the doctor who performed his circumsicion b/c the man didn't have a choice in it.
I have a friend who is a big fan of this movement and has gone as far to say those of us who have circumcised should be put in jail. We too have had both of our boys circumcised, though we have decided not to do it with this next one. My friends (previous one mentioned) big stink made us look into it a bit further and we decided it wasn't something we felt we needed to do for our future sons. HOWEVER, the point is that it is OUR choice. It should be every parent's choice IMO.
The best time to do it is when they are babies. Not one of my boys or my grandson have ever said, I remember when they circumsized me. But my husbands friend had it done when he was older and has all the memories of it.
Whatever choice you make is your choice, however, choosing not to can lead to potential self esteem issues for the child when he is coming into puberty. A friend of mine did with her first and did not with her second. Her second child was very embarrased over not being circumsized because not being was out of the ordinary. He chose to get circumsized at the age of 16. It was a very painful experience for him and he told his other that he wished she would have done it when he was a baby so he wouldn't have to remeber going through that. Whichever way you choose though is your choice, no one elses.
I didn't have the courage to get my boys circumcised after I seen a video on what is done. I kind of think it's a weird routine that we remove part of a baby's genitals. So far they been doing good.
Thank you everyone for seeing my points, I am in awe at the amount of responses. Thank you everyone. I am glad to see everyone agrees with me that it's by choice. I know that there has been a recent stink over it, and I know that if not done correctly that it can harm them, but it is cleaner, and improves young mens self esteem if it is done. And I would think its extremely painful when you are of an older age, or I believe it's 13 that Jewish people do theirs. OUCH!!
Both my boys are circumcised and I'm not sorry we had it done. I left the decision up to my husband, who is circumcised as well. I decided that since I don't have a penis I would leave it up to him. He told me that he's very glad he is circumcised and he has friends who aren't who were always embarrassed that they weren't. He told me he'd be angry at his parents if they hadn't had it done for him.
My cousin didn't have her two boys circed and they ended up getting horrible infections inside the foreskin and had to have it done with they were 6 and 8. It was VERY painful and traumatic for them. So I don't regret our decision at all.
I was going to get my son circumcised, but after I did some research I decided not to get it done. A lot of my friends weren't get their sons circumcised either. I felt its not might right to remove something from his body. If he wants it done he can get it done later.
emerald,
arent you worried about the self esteem issues, or the painful tramatic expirence that you son would hav eto go through later in life?
However, it's your choice, like i said before. I believe that the governemtn should NOT take away our choice to have it done. that is not the governemnts job, they should have better things to do than to try and make circumcision illegal.
Thanks for your input!
JakenMattsMom,
I hope he doesn't have self esteem issues over it, but I have learned that a lot of his friends and classmates will be intact because the figures show that the circumcision rate is going down. I also learned most of the world doesn't do it either.
If he brings up the subject I will explain to him that I didn't think it was might right to removes a piece of his penis.
I've seen a video and it's very traumatic and I talked to a few doctors who said it wasn't really necessary.
I think it should be my son's choice and not mind, since I don't have a penis.
Thanks for responding to my comment.
I left the choice up to my husband, and we spoke about it even before our first son was born, whereas obviously he has the penis and I dont lol. But both our children had the ring, which all it did was stay on, and then eventually the ring fell off and they were circumsized. I guess what it did was jus tpush it back? I'm not sure. But they are circumsied. Thank you so much for expressing your thoughts on this. its going to be a long hard decision if we have another boy wheteher to get it done or not, but if we have another boy, and the first two are, and then the last one is not, it may make for some mixed boy emotions in our home.
Ours views went back and forth for a while and we decided it's not his father penis and of course I don't have one, it is his penis. lol
I heard the ring is used less often, but from what I read they still use a tool to break the adhesion and pull the skin back, they just leave a ring until the skin dies off instead of cutting the skin off during the procedure. They say sometimes the ring can get twisted or not fall off.
I have a friend that has 2 boys that were circumcised and her newborn was left intact and I think it's because her last son's circumcision didn't go very well.
Part of the reason for the decline in circ rates is that medicaid is no longer covering the procedure in some states. I had to out of pocket my last two boys and I am glad I had the funds to do so. Many lower income families don't have that fund set aside so their baby is intact due to lack of option so I don't think the stats accurately reflect parenting choices. I am a registered nurse and have seen the procedure done, it made the decision to do it a little more difficult. There are health risk on both sides and it should be the parents' choice. I have an uncle that suffered with infections during his childhood years (lets face it, kids are not best at hygiene and intact foreskin is a breeding ground for bacteria)he also suffered from raw skin and spots that would at times. When my uncle became an adult he elected to have procedure. As an adult it is a major issue, he had to have surgery and suffered a lot of pain.
I am sure there is some amount of pain as an infant too. I have been in circ procedures where the baby cried but they stop as soon as they are comforted. I was amazed that when baby is given a pacifier or rag dipped in sugar water the baby did not even cry! I was amazed and not sure why all Drs would not use this trick. As far as pain after, I have 4 boys and have never had any of them cry during diaper changes after the first day post procedure. I am so happy that I decided this for my boys, but I do respect that some parents make choices that differ from mine.
Stacey, I didnt knw that some states medicaid stopped paying for it? I completely agree, that its more sanitary, and helps reduce the risk of infections. Thank you for you input. I dont not regret having my sons circumsized.
I love that you are firm enough you your beliefs to make a post like this. I have a daughter, so I didn't need to make that decision, but before I knew I was having a girl, I was really unsure of what to do. I decided I would leave it up to my boyfriend. As a man, I thought he would have better input or understand than I could ever have. I don't think it is wrong one way or another. Kudos to you for standing up and doing what you believe in!
I have watched the video too. I don't have children yet but we plan on trying with in the year. My husband I discussed what we would do and my husband wants to have him circumcised. I have read some really hateful things out there about people who get their sons circumcised or people saying it was the worst mistake of their lives. All of the moms I know who have sons haven't regretted it so I don't think we will either. Thank you for your post.
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